We all have those days, where it starts off great and ends in this major anticlimax. I had one of those this past weekend, where the day started great but as life shows us who is in control with unfortunate events we are just left to wonder why, we are left to pick up the pieces. I was at a police station on Saturday night, arrived there at about 6pm after i heard that my big brother got arrested for a DUI. Alcohol limit in South Africa is at 0.05% and he was a little over due to having drinks at a friends birthday lunch that day.
Concerned and frustrated that this has happened, my parents and my 3 other siblings rushed to the police station. They locked him up and informed us that he is having a asthma attack. I think it was probably a panic attack but nonetheless i feared for him. The look on my parents faces was something i wish to never put them through or see again; they looked sad, stressed and full of fear. I felt angry that he put them in that situation.
No one wants to put their parents through such trauma and distress? No, i was wrong. While standing and waiting for almost 8 hours at the police station, i saw numerous elderly mothers and fathers distraught and scared for their sons. Sons who are on drugs or have been caught up with violence, men who have robbed or killed. Men who have robbed their families of joy and peace, all because of their actions which they could have controlled.
I still can’t get over the teary eyed mothers, clenching their fists between their legs or seeing fathers lower their heads in shame and worry. What did these elderly folks do to deserve this pain and stress in their lives, especially at this stage. They should have been home, in bed and not there on those cold benches, waiting to be attend to at 1pm.
Then i got angry. Angry at the world, angry at my brother for making this ridiculous choice and angry at our youth for their decisions.
I think the South African Police system is so unnecessary and in need of serious adjustments. They need to be more helpful and they need to lose their attitudes. I also think that young men should reevaluate their lives often. Drugs is not an option to explore, violence is not the only answer and that hurting the innocent who are undeserving of being hurt should come to a stop.
Prison is not a pleasant place and it’s not just hurtful to you who goes but hurtful to the people around you that care about you. It affects us all.